Fatherless Child or Bastard- Are they not Bonafide Bhutanese Citizen?
I feel awkward to say bastard to a child who is brought-up by a single parent. It is an offensive and serious crime to say, when the child was born having his/her biological father and mother. How can one should say, a baby will born without a father? And they are called 'bastard' because they don't have a father. In our dialect 'Bastard' refers to as 'drang', and it's an abusive and humiliation to describe it. In literary, 'Bastard' is a old use to a person born of parents not married at the time of his/her birth. Instead, they are called illegitimate or fatherless child.
It is common where a single mother and a fatherless children in the village. When the mother could not identify the child's true biological father. And the father don't want to accept the truth and cannot take her as his wife thereby refusing to accept a child as his own blood. Such was a evil sin which makes a child to suffer and do not get warm love & care that cause morally disappointment in later age of a child.
Just a few weeks ago, I was dumbfounded when the young School going children humiliates one of his friends on their way to the School. A boy was shouted to a girl; "Poor bastard, you don't have a proper bag to put your books". It was raining, may be she was his classmate. She remained silent and shows her sign of assistant from him. As they headed off, I was asking to myself; Are they children of next door neighbour? Did his parents teach such conduct in that way? Because a girl was a fatherless child and look down. Usually people gullible and deceived a single woman in the village when the child was born without a father. It's a common to all and every time happening. Which creates social stigma and alienation in the society, giving more pressure of distress and exclusion to those innocent souls.
The fatherless children are more jeopardize to get into danger. They may get into the drugs & alcohols out of disappointment, fighting & suicide, thief and robbery. Lack of financial supports may results a child to drop from the School, whereby he/she cannot pursue for a tertiary education. This a serious issues which requires urgent attention from the government side to care and support them. Because the fatherless children are also born as bonafide Bhutanese citizen. Why should these innocent souls left neglected and make to suffer?
Not very recently, I have witnessed a pitiful incident in one of the Schools. I was going to enroll my uncle's son during the admission day. A young and charming woman was also there with her six year old son, who was seated behind us silently and fully bowed her head down. When everyone was making full-swing. I didn't notice making her head up. In my discursive thought, I guessed she has some problem to discuss. I went to her side and asked in a low voice.
I was astounded, when she says; "I could not registered into the census of my son, he's six years old now". I asked her, "why, what was happened to that?".
She turned almost red and said, "I have no marriage certificate, and couldn't registered of him into the census". She added, "His biological father refused to accept him as his son".
For the moment I was confounded by hearing that. And fortunately, the School finally approved his admission despite in needs of his documents.
Such was a pitiable condition, it requires dire intervention from the relevant stakeholders of various spectrum. But the problem will remain as it is and may become the worst, if the matter is not take as seriously. When the concern authorities are not involve to care those innocent single woman in the village. How can they expect to file a court case and determine their child's biological father? Since settlement in the court takes a long time. How does a poor and single woman can face an accrual of huge expenses?
In the village level, they have a Local government and Dungkhag court to take defence. And further Dzongkhag authorities to appeal. The authorize agencies must not expect a innocent souls to defence by them individually. They are backward not highly learned. They can't go and do DNA test which it incur a huge lump-sum of expenditure. For a rustic villagers like them, it's too expensive and huge amount where they can't afford it.
But the question is, why the siblings are call 'Bastard'? Are they not offspring of human? Do they have feelings and are not hurts when abused? Would he/she can be your friend?
"You may have both the parents now. And you are born and brought-up by them under a Kangaroo care. But how can you assure to escape from the death and live permanently with them"?
I feel awkward to say bastard to a child who is brought-up by a single parent. It is an offensive and serious crime to say, when the child was born having his/her biological father and mother. How can one should say, a baby will born without a father? And they are called 'bastard' because they don't have a father. In our dialect 'Bastard' refers to as 'drang', and it's an abusive and humiliation to describe it. In literary, 'Bastard' is a old use to a person born of parents not married at the time of his/her birth. Instead, they are called illegitimate or fatherless child.
It is common where a single mother and a fatherless children in the village. When the mother could not identify the child's true biological father. And the father don't want to accept the truth and cannot take her as his wife thereby refusing to accept a child as his own blood. Such was a evil sin which makes a child to suffer and do not get warm love & care that cause morally disappointment in later age of a child.
Just a few weeks ago, I was dumbfounded when the young School going children humiliates one of his friends on their way to the School. A boy was shouted to a girl; "Poor bastard, you don't have a proper bag to put your books". It was raining, may be she was his classmate. She remained silent and shows her sign of assistant from him. As they headed off, I was asking to myself; Are they children of next door neighbour? Did his parents teach such conduct in that way? Because a girl was a fatherless child and look down. Usually people gullible and deceived a single woman in the village when the child was born without a father. It's a common to all and every time happening. Which creates social stigma and alienation in the society, giving more pressure of distress and exclusion to those innocent souls. The fatherless children are more jeopardize to get into danger. They may get into the drugs & alcohols out of disappointment, fighting & suicide, thief and robbery. Lack of financial supports may results a child to drop from the School, whereby he/she cannot pursue for a tertiary education. This a serious issues which requires urgent attention from the government side to care and support them. Because the fatherless children are also born as bonafide Bhutanese citizen. Why should these innocent souls left neglected and make to suffer?
Not very recently, I have witnessed a pitiful incident in one of the Schools. I was going to enroll my uncle's son during the admission day. A young and charming woman was also there with her six year old son, who was seated behind us silently and fully bowed her head down. When everyone was making full-swing. I didn't notice making her head up. In my discursive thought, I guessed she has some problem to discuss. I went to her side and asked in a low voice.
I was astounded, when she says; "I could not registered into the census of my son, he's six years old now". I asked her, "why, what was happened to that?".
She turned almost red and said, "I have no marriage certificate, and couldn't registered of him into the census". She added, "His biological father refused to accept him as his son".
For the moment I was confounded by hearing that. And fortunately, the School finally approved his admission despite in needs of his documents.
Such was a pitiable condition, it requires dire intervention from the relevant stakeholders of various spectrum. But the problem will remain as it is and may become the worst, if the matter is not take as seriously. When the concern authorities are not involve to care those innocent single woman in the village. How can they expect to file a court case and determine their child's biological father? Since settlement in the court takes a long time. How does a poor and single woman can face an accrual of huge expenses?
In the village level, they have a Local government and Dungkhag court to take defence. And further Dzongkhag authorities to appeal. The authorize agencies must not expect a innocent souls to defence by them individually. They are backward not highly learned. They can't go and do DNA test which it incur a huge lump-sum of expenditure. For a rustic villagers like them, it's too expensive and huge amount where they can't afford it.
But the question is, why the siblings are call 'Bastard'? Are they not offspring of human? Do they have feelings and are not hurts when abused? Would he/she can be your friend?
"You may have both the parents now. And you are born and brought-up by them under a Kangaroo care. But how can you assure to escape from the death and live permanently with them"?
No comments:
Post a Comment